Parenting

It takes a village to raise a child – If there is one thing I have learned about parenting, it’s about learning to ask for help.  Parenting is one of the hardest things I have ever done and I know without the support that I am so grateful to have I would be less patient.  Recognizing that our tanks needs to be full in order to continually fill up our children has helped me a lot.    

EDUCATION

Vaccinations:  To vaccinate or not?  Unfortunately this topic tends to be a very touchy one.  It seems that many people are either for it…or against it.   I STRONGLY encourage you to educate yourself before you vaccinate your children so you are making an informed choice.   Had I known what I know now, I would have done things much differently.   Please take the time to watch the youtube trailer below:

The Greater Good (an amazing documentary that opened my eyes).      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ulmEGbwQsOU

BOUGHT – THE TRUTH BEHIND VACCINES BIG PHARMA & YOUR FOOD (another eye opening documentary):   http://www.boughtmovie.net/free-viewing/

I had the opportunity to take two of the courses below and I learned many great tools that I took home and use with my kids.  They were very helpful for me and I wish I had known about the first class but it was too late.  

Parenting Classes – The Children’s Foundation (Free)  –  They provide child care for the night and snacks as well…free!    For more information go to their site  www.surreyearlychildhood.ca – explains the parenting classes and full of tips for parents, research articles and more

Three Free classes listed below:

Right from the start (0-12m)

Coping with Toddler Behavior (12-36 months)

Triple P – Positive Parenting Program (3-6 years) – http://www.everykid.on.ca/Triple%20P%20Parent/topten.html

PARENTING TIPS

I have these up on my wall to help me when I need a few reminders.  

Top 10 Tips for Parents – Triple P Program

1. When your child wants to show you something, stop what you are doing and pay attention to your child. It is important to spend frequent, small amounts of time with your child doing things that you both enjoy.

2. Give your child lots of physical affection – children often like hugs, cuddles, and holding hands.

3. Talk to your child about things he/she is interested in and share aspects of your day with your child.

4. Give your child lots of descriptive praise when they do something that you would like to see more of, e.g., “Thank you for doing what I asked straight away”.

5. Children are more likely to misbehave when they are bored so provide lots of engaging indoor and outdoor activities for your child, e.g., playdough, colouring in, cardboard boxes, dress ups, cubby houses, etc.

6. Teach your child new skills by first showing the skill yourself, then giving your child opportunities to learn the new skill. For example, speak politely to each other in the home. Then, prompt your child to speak politely (e.g., say “please” or “thank you”), and praise your child for their efforts.

7. Set clear limits on your child’s behaviour. Sit down and have a family discussion on the rules in the home. Let your child know what the consequences will be if they break the rules.

8. If your child misbehaves, stay calm and give them a clear instruction to stop misbehaving and tell them what you would like them to do instead (e.g., “Stop fighting; play nicely with each other.” Praise your child if they stop. If they do not stop, follow through with an appropriate consequence.

9. Have realistic expectations. All children misbehave at times and it is inevitable that you will have some discipline hassles. Trying to be the perfect parent can set you up for frustration and disappointment.

10. Look after yourself. It is difficult to be a calm, relaxed parent if you are stressed, anxious, or depressed. Try to find time every week to let yourself unwind or do something that you enjoy.

PARENTING BLOG

Aha Parenting – An amazing resource for all parents.  Dr Laura Markham has so many great resources and tools to share.   Check it out: http://www.ahaparenting.com/_blog/parenting_blog

THE NEUFELD INSTITUTE

Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D. –  Vancouver-based developmental psychologist and author of the book Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers.  Has a tone of videos that can be accessed on line or at the library.   Great information!   Check it out:  http://neufeldinstitute.com/

PARENTING RESOURCE – CHILD WELNESS

Healthy Child – Healthy World – http://healthychild.org/

The Wake Up Story – http://healthychild.org/healthy-living/a-wake-up-story/

FOOD IS MEDICINE:

This site has many very healthy and very easy recipes that are oriented towards family. For each recipe, she gives a run-down on the ingredients and why they are good for you, and often compares to the ‘store-bought’ version.  Here is the link that takes you directly to the ‘kid-friendly snacks’ page:

http://thehealthyfamilyandhome.com/category/healthy-recipes/kid-friendly-snacks/

Below are three other great sites for recipes:

Feel life:  http://feedlife.ca/recipes/

Food Matters: http://www.foodmatters.tv/recipes

Wellness Mama: http://wellnessmama.com/

SLEEP CONSULTANT

The best $150.00 I have ever spent in my life…Really!!!   Abigail and Nolan were nine months old and I was coming close to exhaustion.   I had not slept in 9 months and I did not know how much longer I could go on.  I was so worried that one would wake the other and they were both all over the place with their sleeping.  Dawn did a consultation over the phone with Marty and I and they were both sleeping throught the night  10 days later!   Yes…really!   I have sent her information to many friends.

Dawnn Whittaker – (Counselor and parent coach)  for babies and toddlers:   –  for more information go to  http://www.cheekychops.ca/

SEXUAL HEALTH EDUCATION

Selema Noon – a great resource for ALL parents.   Check out her site:  http://www.saleemanoon.com/

COUNSELING

Coleen Drobot: An amazing lady and counselor.  She has been so helpful for my husband and I.  She is part of the Neufeld Institute, previous teacher and mom of two children. 

Check her out:   http://www.drobotcounselling.com/biographies

GROUPS & NETWORKS / ORGANIZATIONS

We were introduced to IDP when Abigail and Nolan were first born.  It took us seven months to get to the top of the waiting list but it was well worth it.  We loved our consultant who gave us tones of tips and tools about child development and helped us find resources in the community when we needed them.   Our IDP consultant was also instrumental in helping us get Nolan diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder .   If it wasn’t for her he would not be where he is today.    Thank goodness for programs like IDP!

Infant Development Program – (In various communities in BC) –  For children younger than three at risk for developmental delay.  It is a referral program or parents can self refer.  IDP helps parents find available service in the community and help them understand early childhood development (giving parents tools to help their child).   The Infant development consultant comes once a month or more if necessary – home visiting program.  Check them out at: http://www.idpofbc.ca/

We spent alot of time at the Centre for child development.   Nolan and Abigail both did speach therapy there and we also took some great music classes that the kids loved.  We used their occupational therapist and there physiotherapist as well.  Another great resource!

Centre for Child DevelopmentThe Centre for Child Development of the Lower Mainland has been providing services for children with special needs and their families for 56 years. The Centre provides specialized pediatric medical rehabilitation services and supports to 2,000 children with special needs and their families in Delta, Surrey, South Surrey, White Rock, Langley and other areas of the Lower Mainland. http://www.centreforchilddevelopment.ca/

I went to Multiple Miracles for about one year and I found it very helpful to talk with other people experiencing the same thing I was.   I found out about our sleep consultant there and also found our Nanny that we still have to this day!!  Love networking with moms.

The Fraser Vally Multiple Miracles – Established in 1988, the Fraser Valley Multiple Miracles Association is a registered non-profit support group for parents of multiple birth children. Our purpose is to broaden the understanding of those aspects of child development and rearing that specifically relate to multiple birth children and their singleton siblings.  You can get more information at:  http://www.fraservalleymultiplemiracles.org/about.html

Early Childhood Mental Health Program – for children 0-6 that may be demonstrating signs of mental illness.

Support for Parents with Young Children – Which is provided through Options.   It is free and offers one on one home support, education and encourages the development of healthy families in the community.services and supports to 2,000 children with special needs and their families in Delta, Surrey, South Surrey, White Rock, Langley and other areas of the Lower Mainland.

LIFE COACH

Lee has been my life coach through my Cancer, Autism and so much more.   It is hard to describe all the support and love she has shown me.   I really can’t say enought amazing things about her.   Anyone could and would be a better person if Lee was in their life. 

Lee Chamberland – Wellness Coach & Inspirational Speaker.  For more information go to: http://www.powerofwellness.com

24 HOUR NURSING LINE

811 Nurses lineI used it all the time

CRAFT IDEAS / FREE WORKSHEETS & MORE  (All free!!!)

All kids Network – check it out at:  http://www.allkidsnetwork.com/

TOYS – REAL TOYS!!

I am all about the toys that enourage your child to think, explore and be creative. 

For Small Hands –  http://www.forsmallhands.com/  (I get almost all Abigail & Nolan’s gifts here now).

Discovery Toys – http://www.discoverytoys.com/homeoffice

Early Years Learning Storehttp://www.childcareoptions.ca/shop.php

POEMS

Ways to love a child – Another great one up on my wall!

“Give your presence-Laugh, dance and sing together-Listen from a heart space-Encourage-Understand-Allow them to love themselves-Ask their opinions-Learn from them-Say yes as often as possible-Say no when necessary-Honour their no’s-Apologize-touch gently-Build lots of blanket forts-Open up-Fly kites together-Lighten up-Believe in possibilities-Read books out loud-Create a circle of quiet-Teach feelings-Share your dreams-Walk in the rain-Celebrate mistakes-Admit yours-Frame their artwork-Stay up late together-Eliminate comparison-Delight in silliness-Handle with care-Protect them-Cherish their innocence-Giggle-Speak kindly-Go swimming-Splash-Let them Help-Let them cry-Don’t hide your tears-Brag about them-Answer their questions-Let them go when it is time-Let them come back-Show compassion-Bend down to talk to little children-Smile even when you are tired-Surprise with a special lunch-Don’t judge their friends-Give them enough room to make decisions-Love all that they do-Honour their differences-Respect them-Remember they have not been on the earth for a very long time”

BOOKS

Simplicity Parenting – Kim John Payne (ONE OF MY FAVORITE)

Hold onto your kids – Gordon Neufeld – http://neufeldinstitute.com/

The Power of Play – David Elkind

10 Mindful Minutes – Goldie Hawn

The Conscious Parent – Shefali Tsabary

Optimistic Parenting – V. Mark Durand

The Last Child in the Woods – Richard Louv

Baby’s Best Chance – Can be picked up for free at any local Boundary Health

Toddler’s First Steps – Can be picked up for free at any local Boundary Health

Boys and girls body science -Meg Hickling

Speaking of Sex – Meg Hickling

Body Science – Meg Hickling

 VIDEOS

Dsknectd – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrSDbRKFhrM

Speaking of Sex – Meg Hickling

www.healthychild.org – Great video you have to watch called “The Wake up Story”

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  • 1. holly jones  |  March 12, 2013 at 3:06 pm

    this is a wonderful blog I sat and read this as my newborn slept and it has been an eye opener for me. When I ask my pediatrition or the nurses at our ahs offices,alberta health services, about any information on “alternative” nutrition, the right nutrition, I get no info. I would love to be able to easily access information for vegan nutrition and playgroup supports here in edmonton without being looked at funny. Can you give me any information that you may know of for programs here in edmonton, alberta? I would be very appreciative. Thank you so much for this blog my little one has been experiencing eczema since I had to stop breast feeding due to medical reasons and it is like pulling teeth to get your doctor to find something other then formula cow milk based to put your little one on. I thank you for the list of other milks because I would have never thought hemp and that is one I will, try good for you!!!

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